In today’s episode of the Inspiration2grow podcast we are going to be talking about starting a love affair with a very special person – yourself.
It’s Tangible Tuesday and today I’d like to provide a few tips on how you can begin loving yourself wholeheartedly and unconditionally. Be sure to stay until the end, there’s a special poem – just for you.
🧡it’s time to fall in love with ourselves all over again🧡. Maybe you struggle with this OR perhaps you just need a reminder. This month can be a great opportunity to start a practice of self-compassion and appreciation—to really take the time to nurture our souls so we can show up as our whole selves.
We have to learn or re-learn how to love ourselves.
Your personal relationship with yourself, the way you love you, the way you listen to you, the way you talk to you, the way you prioritize you, the way you celebrate you, the way you nurture you, the way you adorn you, the way you cherish you… all of this is what allows YOU to be a great partner to someone else. It all starts within YOU. In order to have healthy relationships with others, first and foremost, you have to be capable of loving yourself – both inside and out.
Learning how to love yourself does not just benefit your relationships. It benefits your health and your whole, entire life.
We spend far too much time in admiration of others who have achieved more, who have reached new heights, who have done all the things. What we should be doing instead is…looking within ourselves to find all the wonderful, amazing things we have accomplished in our lifetime.
Valentine’s Day is traditionally the day when we show love, appreciation, adoration, and deep admiration for others. I encourage you to flip this tradition on its head and dedicate the day to loving yourself, all that you have become, all that you are, all that you want to be. Spend the day writing down all the incredible things you have achieved during your precious lifetime. Then jot down all the marvelous things you still want to accomplish – dream big, I mean really big – the sky is not even the limit.
For today, in honour of yourself and the love you’d like to shower on yourself, ask yourself what the ultimate act of self-love would be? What are you craving? How can you treat yourself?
Obviously, this looks different for everyone. It might be booking a day at the spa for some luxurious, much-needed treatments. It could be booking a trip somewhere – just for the day, a week or longer. It may be going shopping and buying yourself that top, dress or outfit that you have wanted for some time now. It might be taking yourself out to a restaurant for a tasty meal and just sitting alone in silence dreaming up your next big goal or move you are going to make in your life. Whatever it is, YOU DESERVE IT.
And speaking of “love” this month… there are a few things I want to remind you of… because there are a lot of people who think they are unlovable. They feel they have to change themselves in order to gain love from others. My message to these people is… you have to stay true to who you are deep inside. You have to remain authentic to you.
For those who are seeking love but feel like you have to change, remember these next words. I hope they are inspiring and empowering at the same time.
It’s not that you’re “hard to love”…
It’s that you’ve finally realized how love lands best for you, and you’re not accepting anything less than the kind of love that allows you to feel fully seen.
It’s not that you’re “high maintenance”…
It’s that you now know what your soul needs to thrive and feel alive, and you’re not standing for anything less – you now have boundaries (they aren’t fierce, they are flexible), but it’s a different vibe.
It’s not that you’ve changed…
It’s that you now realize what you truly want for your mind, body and soul, and you are working harder than ever, prioritizing your habits over everything else.
It’s not that you’re “too much…”
It’s that now you have felt a glimpse of your truest self, and you crave to express the symphony that is on your soul – loudly and often.
You’re not here to be understood.
You’re not here to stay stagnant.
You’re not here to be nice (kindness, yes, always).
You’re not here to create artificial harmony.
You’re not here to follow the crowd.
You’re not here to be “normal”.
As the good ‘ol saying goes – People come into your life for a season, a reason, or a lifetime. It’s not up to you to decide on the placement.
You’re here to be ruthlessly committed to following YOUR own path to health and wellness, and you’ll be met by the perfect beings at every level.
But most of all, you’re here to be loved, BE love, and love. Period.
So dive in deeply this month, Lisa, and give yourself the permission to fall more in love with who you are and all that you are becoming…because you are MAGIC.
A poem to remind you of your self-worth…
Accept yourself as a work in progress to continue
to build yourself into the person you’re dreaming to be;
the person you have all the potential to be.
Accept your flaws, accept your truths. accept your past.
and make light of them. no one can tear you down if
you make peace with who you are and where you’ve
been.
If you are going to focus on the negative at all,
focus on turning them into positives. focus on growing.
Sometimes, often times, our minds are the scariest
place to sit. It’ll trick you into comparing yourself
to others and it’ll trick you into believing you aren’t
good enough. but you are.
You have always been and you always will be.
You’re much more powerful
when you believe in yourself.
If you don’t love
all of you, who will?
Give yourself time to blossom.
—Reyna Biddy
And, that’s your Valentine’s message for today, friends. Dedicate the day to yourself, shower so much love on yourself, do the things that bring you joy and contentment, plan and dream of your next moves, write out the words “I love myself from top to bottom, inside and out.” And stick that on your mirror to look at each and every morning. Have it as a note on your phone – wherever you can be reminded time and time again.
On that note, I want to tell you just in case no one has told you yet today…
You are loved, you are a capable, brilliant, incredible human being. I believe in you 100 %. Now go out there and show the world what you are truly made of.
Thanks for tuning in today and as always, I hope to have inspired you to grow.
Remember to … love yourself first and be your own superhero.
Til next time.
